3 People You Need In Your Life

We cannot reach our potential alone; we need others to help draw the best out of us. There is no such thing as Rambos in real life. No one can do everything they are capable of doing without the help of others. We were created for community. And when we are out of community we begin to lose our potential.

Proverbs 27:17 (NIV)

As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.

We need others. The people we surround ourselves with can make or break our future. Moran Cerf, a Neuroscientist at Northwestern University wrote this, “The more we study engagement, we see time and again that just being next to certain people actually aligns your brain with them. This means the people you hang out with actually have an impact on your engagement with reality beyond what you can explain. And one of the effects is you become alike.”

Wow, what a realization Cerf had in the study of engagement. We eventually become like the people we hang out with. This is why it is vital that we are intentional about surrounding ourselves with the right people.

Here are the 3 people you need in your life:

1) Mentors

They REVEAL to us where we should be going

Mentors are vital to success. You can get to where you want to go further and faster with mentors who can show you the way. You expedite your potential when you surround yourself with those who are bigger, better, and beyond you. Most people I meet do not have mentors who are speaking into their life. But those who are maximizing their opportunities are those who have many mentors. Did you catch that? Many mentors. You don’t need one mentor, you need many mentors for different areas of your life. Pick mentors who can help you in the different categories and traits that you want to grow in.

2) Mates

They RELATE to us where we are

We need to surround ourselves with people who are on the same journey as us. It’s important to have those we can do life together with and grow together with. There is a powerful connection between two people who are traveling together and are able to help each other with their experiences. Mates can help you make sense of what’s going on in the moment. They can provide unique perspective in the trenches of life with you. You need to regularly meet with these mates and talk about your experiences so that you can help each other with fresh insight in the moment.

3) Mentees

They REMIND us of where we’ve been.

If you want to complete the circle of who you need in your life don’t forget about those who need your help. In fact, the more you help others the more it helps you. Giving back to those who you can speak wisdom into will bring great fulfillment to you. If we are not reaching behind us encouraging and investing into the next generation we will miss out on leaving a legacy. We all need mentors and if you don’t become one someone is missing out on completing their circle. You leave the greatest legacy when you leave it in people. Don’t get selfish and miss out on the joy of mentoring others along their journey.